Becoming a Birth-tender
My initiation into this work was intentionally slow, gradual and then divinely rapid and immense. I spent years reading, listening, immersing myself in everything birth, pregnancy, postpartum & womb. Then in January 2025 I had the honour of sitting alongside two incredible women as they brought their babies onto the Earth. These stories belong to the women, and their babies, and are not mine to share. But what I can share is how it made me feel.
As the waves of opening & softening fell over these women I felt so still, so calm. I knew as I sat with them offering a hand, a drink, a co-vocalisation or nothing at all, that they were drawing from the deepest Source power. That they were reaching into the cosmic womb and bringing forth life from their yoni ~ not a simple task but my goddess is it an embodied one.
Birthing this way takes re-membering. It takes reintegrating all the parts of oneself that have been cut up and scattered by patriarchy, witch wounds, colonialism, dualism… and gently bringing them back into the body. It takes honouring one’s vessel for the incredibly powerful life giving body that it is, and then offering that body to the alter of Spirit. Because birth changes you. Every cell is altered as they integrate this other worldly experience. It is a holy sanctuary. An ultimate sacrifice.
As I witnessed these women journey through the labyrinth of the birth dance I knew deep in my bones that this is the way I want to serve in this human realm. Supporting women to journey through the birth dance is how we birth the new world. But it doesn’t start when surges begin. Its roots are much deeper, far before conception, far before menarche (the first bleed) and perhaps even with your ancestors. The patterns we carry into birth have been printed upon us during all rites of passage (or lack there of) across lifetimes. Your mother’s birth, your birth, your first bleed, your early sexual experiences, any experiences of abuse or violence, your previous births and pregnancies ~ they all matter. They all call to be felt. They call to be re-membered and reintegrated back into the body.
Birthing is instinctive. Birthing in power is your divine right as a being with a womb. And if you desire to birth in this way then journeying with these elements will support you immensely.
This is the type of birth work I am offering. It is cosmic, it is deeply elemental, it is a sacred honouring of every story that makes you, you. I am honoured to be offering birth work to womb bearers in South Devon. You are so welcome to reach out if this type of journeying speaks to you.
The Spiral Journey
The journey we will take together follows a spiral path. During the spiral/labyrinthine journey of pregnancy we will explore the stories held within your womb space: menarche, early sexual experience, your birth blueprint, any previous experience pregnancies, births and post-partum experience.
These story-telling sessions will be held within a framework or massage/body work & creative expression that facilitates somatic relaxation and builds trust between you and your support team.
From there we will begin to explore the dreams and fears around your upcoming birth. We will use creative modalities to permeate into the depths of where these beliefs, fears and aspirations come from. Sessions with me may also be infused with prayer & light language if these channels feel resourcing for you.
Testimonials
“Jasmine supported me through my pregnancy, birth and postpartum, and even up to writing this when my daughter is now 7 months old!
Since the beginning I have felt heard and supported by Jas - she always reminded me that I know best what me and my baby need.
My pregnancy was unplanned and working with Jas from the very beginning helped me process the sudden change in my path. She held space SO beautifully for everything I brought - the sweet and not so sweet, the tears, the laughter and excitement, the fears and doubts. Our sessions were different each time depending on what was alive in me and what I needed. And she was always flexible. Sometimes we just talked, often we worked with oracle cards, sometimes she guided me on deep journeys and in meditation, there was always touch and always plenty of space just to see what would arise.
We explored my relationship with my maiden, mother and crone energies. We looked at my red thread, my own birth, my relationship with my mother and my own blood. Our sessions helped me look at the parts of myself that need acknowledgment and transformation as I bring another girl into the world. I’m so grateful for the container we had for these explorations.
During my birth, Jasmine kept me going with coconut water through a straw over the side of the birthing pool! I always felt her presence and calm holding of the space. The morning after my daughter was born, she cleaned up and helped us get cosy and fed so we could go to bed with our new baby. I think we saw Jas almost every day for a while after the birth! She would drop round supplies like dates and healing herbs, check how we’re doing and give me some massage. I loved having Jas coming by in those precious first days, when time was moving strangely and the emotions were like big beautiful waves.
Something worth mentioning is the experience of my partner, baby’s dad - he felt seen and heard too which was so important to him. Jasmine would simply ask how he was doing and it gave him a chance to communicate how my pregnancy was feeling for him too.
So thank you Jas, from the bottom of our hearts, for being a part of my family’s journey. I’ll let you know when the next one is coming!”
Annie & Nick
Waays to Journey Together
The Spiral Journey
This is my signature journey as a birth-tender. It is infused with prayer. If you are seeking support that takes you on a spiral journey to connect to and listen to your womb, then my birth tending support may be for you. Imagine tuning into the mystical depths of your womb and pouring forth the energy for creation, with soft hands to hold & massage you; open ears to listen to your stories and a fiercely trusting heart to journey with you through this sacred portal.
Pregnancy Portal
4-5 sessions during pregnancy and dedicated to exploring the stories held within your womb. You will gently storytell the rights of passage you have already journied through. Menarche, your own birth, early sexual experiences and any previous pregnancies and births. Each session with have time dedicated to embodiment; whether through massage, gentle touch, dance, breathing. Your partner is welcome to join every session and I’d welcome them to join at least 1-2. 2-3 sessions are dedicated to visioning together how your birth and postpartum will feel, look energetically, spiritually and practically. We will look at fears and dreams working with whatever is present. We will also talk through the practicalities of becoming your birth and post-partum support team. I will support in recommending resources with other local providers that can support with breastfeeding, placenta processing, bodywork etc. Your spiral journey can begin either before conception, at the start of your pregnancy or further into your blooming. The complete journey covers 6 elements which we work through together to allow s p a c e for somatic embodiment, emergence & deep listening. To enable the voice of your womb to speak through you requires time and space. While we are journeying together I am available to your over whatsapp or signal for messages & voicenotes.
Birth Dance Portal
From 38 weeks I will be on-call (accessible 24/7 via Whatsapp) and ready to join your birth space whenever you feel ready. I will stay with you until your baby is born, your placenta has arrived and your whole family (partner + other children) feel supported, warm and fed.
At this time in my journey, I am only looking to support families that are intentionally choosing to birth at home. I will of course join you, if a transfer to hospital occurs and support you entirely in your decision-making.
If you feel called to work with me, but are choosing to birth in a hospital or birthing centre, we may still journey together for pregnancy & post-partum sessions.
Post-Partum Portal
Following the birth I will visit daily for one week for 2 hour sessions. These sessions are a time for gentle care. Ideally cooking for you, making your space clear and clean, supporting you to feel nourishing and held with light touch. If you would like additional post-partum care sessions you can book these in at a rate of £25 p/h. As we have walked together I will be available to book a ritual birth debrief together any time following your birth. Some people may feel ready to do this sooner, and others may want to wait months, or for a full solar cycle. As a client the charge for this session is £44.
Exchange: £1110
Payment plans available:
£185 a month over 6-month period.
£370 a month over a 3-month period.
Book a free consultation.
If for any reason I do not attend your birth £250 will be deducted from this amount.
Please note: contact me to discuss this exchange if your finances or circumstances are difficult or if you an on income support. Doula UK have an access fun and “Doulas Without Borders” offer support. I will also consider skill/service swaps towards payment.
Waalking the Labrinyth
All elements of the Spiral Journey included with these additions to deeply hold and nourish this transition and threshold.
Rite of Passage - Mothers Blessing
I will also support to organise and facilitate a Mothers Blessing to bring together special people in your life to celebrate this journey. We can design this day together to include ritual, creativity, devotional touch and food.
Community - Pregnancy Circles
You are welcome to join are pregnancy circles that I facilitate in South Devon during our journey together.
Honouring the Threshold - Debrief & Wrapping Ceremony
At a time of your choosing, when the energy feels right (recommended within the first 6 weeks after birth however your journey is for you to feel into) we will journey back into the story of your birth and what has arisen since. Unfurling and acknowleding how the birth dance moved through you. Ceremonial wrapping creates a container for you, as a new mother (or mother to more) to be held, nourished, to receive, to express and to soften. It is an ancient practice carried by wisdom keepers across lineages. In Latin America and South America this practice is very alive, but it is also practiced across India, Indonesia, Pakistan, Sri Lanka, Africa and Japan. Wrapping is physiologically, emotionally and spiritually supportive. This ceremony opens with somatic embodiment, follows with space for you to share your birth story, and then finally the wrapping ceremony composed on rocking each body part before wrapping them. This is a space for you to receive - because as a new mother or mother to more you will be giving so much of yourself.
(Seperate to Walking the Labrinyth this ceremony can be booked and is charged individually at £150).
Exchange: £1330
Payment plans available:
£222 a month over 6-month period.
£444 a month over a 3-month period.
Book a free consultation.
If for any reason I do not attend your birth £250 will be deducted from this amount.
Please note: contact me to discuss this exchange if your finances or circumstances are difficult or if you an on income support. Doula UK have an access fun and “Doulas Without Borders” offer support. I will also consider skill/service swaps towards payment.
Resources
These resources have support my journey into birth-tending and they may support yours as a womb holder, Mother, Father or human being.
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Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum:
Birthing From Within Pam England; Labyrinth of Birth Pam England; Spiritual Midwifery Ina May Gaskin; Birth Reborn Michel Odent; Placenta: The Forgotten Chakra Robin Lim; The First Forty Days: The Essential Art of Nourishing the New Mother Heng Ou and Marisa Belger; The Fourth Trimester: A Postpartum Guide to Healing Your Body, Balancing Your Emotions, and Restoring Your Vitality Kimberly Ann Johnson.
Sacred Feminine & The Womb:
Womb Awakening: Initiatory Wisdom from the Creatrix of All Life Azra Bertrand and Seren Bertrand; The Madonna Secret Sophie Strand; Yoni Shakti: A Woman’s Guide to Power and Freedom through Yoga and Tantra Uma Dinsmore-Tuli.
Sacred Masculine:
The Flowering Wand: Rewilding the Sacred Masculine Sophie Strand -
Pregnancy, Birth & Postpartum:
Birth A New Story; The Way of the Womb Podcast; The Great Birth RebellionSacred Feminine & Ecology:
Rooted Healing; Weaving the Wild; The Emerald -
Micro-Birth; Birth Story: Ina May Gaskin and The Farm Midwives; Doula! The Ultimate Birth Companion
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@bekoakaiah @wellspring_postpartum @devapathways @birthanewstory @ayurmama_ @moonandhoneymama @livewildbirthfree @naolivinaver_oficial @carla.sage.birthwork
Events in Totnes
Totnes High Street (location given on booking) Monday 24th November 6-8pm
Monday 8th December 6-8pm
Monday 22nd December 6-8pm
Monday 5th January (online) time tbc
£10 per session - £50 for 6 - one concession space available
Limited space available
Email jasminelpcox@gmail.com to book